HOW TO APOLOGIZE

By Festus A Anim -



*Viewpoint

You might feel that an apology is in order only if you are responsible for the problem. When I know I'm a hundred percent at fault, it's easy to say "I'm sorry.' But when we both said things we regret, it's difficult. I mean why should I apologize if both of us messed up?
You might feel even more justified if you feel that what happened was entirely your spouse's fault. "When you genuinely believe that you haven't done anything wrong," says myself, withholding an apology becomes a way of declaring your innocence."

WHAT YOU CAN DO
*Focus on your partner. Try to think of a time when someone apologized to you and how good that made you feel. Why not make your partner feels or for the unintended consequences of your actions. Such words can help your partner to heal.

*Focus on your relationship. View an apology, not as a defeat for you, but as a victory for your relationship. After all, a person who remains offended is "more unyielding than a fortified city says Proverbs 18:19. It is difficult, if not impossible, to restore peace in such a defensive atmosphere. On the other hand, when you apologize you prevent the offense from becoming a barrier. In essence, you put your relationship ahead of yourself.

*Be quick to apologize. True apologizing may be difficult if you are not fully to blame. But your partner's faults do not excuse bad behavior on your part. So do not hesitate to apologize, thinking that the passing of time will cover over the offense. Your apologizing can make it easier for your partner to apologize too. And the more you practice apologizing, the easier it will become for you.

*Prove that you mean it. Rationalizing your behavior is not the same as apologizing for it. And saying perhaps with a tinge of sarcasm. "I'm sorry that you're so sensitive about this" is not an apology at all. Accept responsibility for your actions and acknowledge the hurt your partner feels, whether you believe that the hurt is warranted or not.

*Face facts. Humble accept that you wi mistakes. After all, everyone does! Even if you think you are blameless in a situation, recognize that your version of what happened is probably not the whole story. " The first to state his case seems right," says the Bible, until the other party comes and cross-examines him.(Proverbs 18:17) You will be more apt to apologize if you have a realistic view of yourself and your shortcomings.

I will use this opportunity to apologize to someone close to my heart and a big thanks to my brother Ransford Opoku for supporting the dream.
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